CHARACTER ASSETS
We had begun to develop spiritual qualities which we had never had, or had allowed to go unused during our active addiction. — SLAA Basic Text, Page 89
I’ve always had character assets, but they were so hidden under acting out that I didn’t notice them or have the chance to build on them. I often tried to claim my partner’s character assets as my own. Sometimes I would bury my good qualities out of fear of losing the attention of someone I really thought I needed. If I got the sense that a prospective partner would be intimidated by intelligence, I played dumb. If my boyfriend thought I worked too much, I became irresponsible and called in sick when I wasn’t.
With the help of my Higher Power in sobriety, I let go of the fear of losing someone in favour of letting my character assets grow. Once I could identify and clear out many of my defects, I got to work on cultivating the opposite of those defects. It was sometimes a long painful process, but my Higher Power and Program helped me through. Today I am the kind of person I used to look up to and wished I could be.
I will list my character assets and add to them today.